Most faulty reactions and thought patterns are learned from your parents, or are coping mechanisms formed in an unhealthy home life during childhood. According to Dr. Sherman, in her book Dysfunction Interrupted, the issues many face today, are really the normal reactions of a healthy brain to unfortunate circumstances experienced in a dysfunctional family.
“If you grew up frightened for the safety of yourself, your siblings and/ or the other parent, then of course you are going to be an anxious sort. Anxiety is normal in the face of chaos or even danger— not a disorder.”
So when you suffer the effects of anxiety or depression, it is your brain’s way of letting you know something is broken that needs to be fixed in your life. Whether it is an unusual reaction to stressors or life changes that throw you into panic or drop you into the pit of depression, it is just an indication that you never learned the correct way to cope and deal with these feelings.
“If you grew up never feeling good enough, then of course you will be depressed. That is a normal reaction, not abnormal. Depression and shutting down in the face of chaos with no strategy for relief is also a normal process.”
Most likely, your brain was too busy trying to survive and protect you from the unpredictable authority figure, so you didn’t learn healthy coping strategies.
This book is a “how to” program that is easy to follow and provides hope along with long-lasting results. Dr. Sherman shows you how to retrain your brain and learn better, healthier ways to deal with those negative techniques learned from your parents.
“That is the way the brain works.”
Dr Sherman has revealed the tested and proven process she teaches to anxious and depressed patients in her practice. This book is the distillation of her technique, which allows you to decide when and where the unhealthy responses came from, and gives you the tools and techniques to recover and grow. It allows you to be in control.
The 9 Steps
- Cognitive-Based Work
- The Advanced Thinking Skills
- Lose the Fear
- Boundary Setting & Relationship Overhaul
- Body Basics
- Get It Together!
Laid out with tasks to work on in each step, you’ll see your growth build and you’ll learn a healthier way of doing things as you progress through the book. It’s a practical, proven system to help you learn healthy thought processes not learned in your dysfunctional childhood.
Having experienced the effects of a dysfunctional family upbringing, this book really helped me see why I react to stressful situations the way I do. It’s given me a less daunting approach to understanding and working at re-learning healthy ways to react and behave when life throws me a curve ball.
I know I have a lot of work ahead of me, in order to heal, but this book gave me hope. Hope that some day I could be free from these feelings of panic and despair that sometimes overwhelm me.
The step-by-step nature of the book makes it feel do-able. Like I can actually work toward a healthier mental lifestyle. I no longer feel that it’s pointless to want to get off medication to control my anxiety and depression. With some hard work and dedication and of course guidance from my Dr. I now feel it’s possible.
Thank you for this book Dr. Sherman! I will be working my way through all the suggested steps and know that I will read this book more than once.
I’ll leave you with my favorite quote from the book.
“What is important is for you to understand are the lasting effects their behavior may have had on you. This way, you can choose to correct it and devise your own life under your own thinking rules. You become in charge.” – Dr Audrey Sherman
About the author:
Dr. Audrey Sherman, a psychologist, is an expert at working with clients who want to be free from emotional baggage that’s keeping them from living happier, more fulfilling lives. Her specialty is helping people overcome anxiety, depression and anger. She believes that happiness and hope really can be learned.
For almost two decades, Dr. Sherman has taught thousands of clients how to change their thinking and habits. By using her program, Dysfunction Interrupted, people can better control their lives, build healthier relationships and “Feel Good For Life!” Connect with Dr Sherman: Website | Twitter @PsychSkillsInst | Facebook | buy Dysfunction Interrupted
From the book:
Believe it or not, a lot of the symptoms that are giving you trouble today are the normal reactions of a healthy brain to unfortunate circumstances. Anxiety is normal in the face of chaos or even danger— not a disorder. Depression and shutting down in the face of chaos with no strategy for relief is also a normal process. So anxiety or depression or both are letting you know something needs an overhaul in your life. It is time to take control.
Not surprisingly, a need for a shorter, “how to” type of program that is clearly presented, comprehensive and provides hope along with long-lasting results was needed.
Most maladaptive behaviors and thought patterns stem from learned behaviors that our parents modeled or were reactions to unhealthy environments. If you grew up never feeling good enough, then of course you will be depressed. That is a normal reaction, not abnormal. If you grew up frightened for the safety of yourself, your siblings and/ or the other parent, then you of course are going to be an anxious sort. That is the way the brain works. And, be thankful your brain works, that is the first step here to change. This book delves into the processes and enables you to decide what went wrong and when.